I agree. I. WOULD. STAND. UP. FOR. ANYONE.
DO?! YOU?! HEAR?! ME?!
If I knew who you are and saw you, I'd give you a hug.
The Gods and Goddesses I know love everyone, so I do too.
Let me just Essay this to you:
The teenage boy who "pried into your life" isn't homophobic. He's a boy in the eighth grade which means he's a horny idiot. Hell, 99% of middle school IS horny idiots who know nothing of how the world works. They think what they've seen in a couple streaming videos of internet porn is real. They think they know what love is. They think they know more than people who have lived twelve, fifteen, twenty years longer than they have. And they think lesbians are amazing, lithe, magical creatures of voracious sexual appetite who might just turn bi for them. They don't know shit.
Homophobia isn't being an unwarrented asshole to somebody just because they're gay; that's bigotry.
And nor is every single negative response towards people of the orientation you encounter bigotry. Take Colton on the current season of Survivor: Blood vs. Water. He's gay, but is that why everyone hates him? No. It is because he's a manipulative, effeminate, venomous, drama-creating, spiteful, hateful little man who incidentally takes it up the butt. Does anyone react the same way towards his partner, who sits on the opposing team and is also gay? No. He's accepted and well-situated. He's part of the majority allianace.
Hatred, like homosexuality, is not a disease. It's a part of humanity. You can't cure it. If they don't hate you because you're gay, they'll hate you because you're fat. If they don't hate you because you're fat, they'll hate you because you're poor. If they don't hate you because you're poor, they'll hate you because you're stupid. And if you're not any of those, they'll hate you for just the opposite.
So cheer up! The world is a giant asshole and as difficult as it may often be, it's up to you to make your own words when they leave you none, fight back whether they let you or not, eat hate-speech for breakfast and shit out the love you demand from others before lunch. Cheerio, my lesbian friend, and God bless!
Wow, thanks for the comment, I'm going to try to respond to all of your points as best I can.
First, I definitely believe that he is homophobic. Merriam-Webster defines homophobia as an "irrational fear of, aversion to, or discrimination against homosexuality or homosexuals." Yes, he was a horny idiot, but the fact that he specifically targeted lesbians and bisexual girls was bigotry, discrimination, homophobia. He never harassed a girl if he thought she was straight, and he made that very clear.
Next, I completely understand that not every response to gay people is homophobic. I know plenty of straight people that I don't get along with, and I know plenty of gay people that I don't like as well. Everyone is different, and being gay doesn't change that someone is an asshole.
Haters gonna hate, but ignorance still sucks. My comment is over. Enjoy the rest of your day.
Well, here's the thing about the suffix -phobia, though: in every other instance of its use (arachnophobia, xenophobia, technophobia, etc., etc., etc.) its meaning is inherently indicative of a driving motivation of fear. I take issue with the use of the word "homophobia" to discribe this kind of behavior towards gays and lesbians because it implies an inherent fear of homosexuality, which is generally not the driving motivation behind most of the prejudiced behavior for which the label is used; rather, it more closely resembles the bigotry of the people who go "Gahdamn ferners r takd muh jobs fuck em go back t' yer own cuntry niggerjew!"
Since he went after lesbians in particular, rather than averting himself, his motive couldn't be an aversion to or fear of lesbianism. If he was worried you might turn him gay, that would be a different story. But I think including discrimination as a qualifier when the other 529 usages deal strictly with fear is at the very least a departure from validity and at most a clear misuse of the suffix.
So, bigotry? Sure. But homophobia? Nuupe.